Grown-up Girlfriends Chapter 12 and 13

Hello everyone ~

How is everybody's week going? Mine had been pretty hectic lately with car problems and trouble getting splints made for my hands. This process has been months in the making, ever since I got my first round of Botox. Unfortunately, though, it keeps getting passed on from doctor to doctor because they're not really sure what they want. Not that I'm complaining, I am definitely not looking forward to wearing them both day and night. But I guess that's the only way my arms will see changes in the long run.

Today I will be concluding my series on Grown-Up Girlfriends. I hope through my notes during this series my readers have learned to value the relationships that God puts in our lives. I have certainly learned a lot about myself as well as the importance of Christian friendships in my life. The final two chapters focus on the importance of learning through this process and growing up in response.I would love to hear how and if the series impacted you.

Notes on Chapter 12- A Grown-Up Girlfriend Passes On What She Knows
1. Make Yourself Available- if the opportunity arises, be ready and willing to share your experiences
2. Spreading Your Wings- allow yourself to grow from experiences and develop your own convictions about friendships. Every person is different and takes different perspectives on any given situation.
3. Deuteronomy 6:7
4. Remember To Pray for The Females In Your Life- a prayer could be as simple as the one given on page 199

"Lord, please help my daughter [or niece or any young lady] have with some when selecting girlfriends. Please bring girls into her life who love you, most importantly, but who also make good choices in life. Protect her from harm and bless her abundantly with healthy friendships. Amen".

Notes for The Final chapter: Chapter 13- The Grown-Up Friendship Requires Us to Grow Up
1. Too Often We Want to Be Comfortable, but Becoming a Grown-Up Requires Change and Growth
2. "God will provide what is needed for this change throughout the journey- if we choose to follow him" (page 209)
3. The Goal of Growing Up - Ephesians 4:14-16, taken from The Message
It says in part, "God wants us to grow up, to know the truth and tell it in love- like Christ and everything."
4. Qualities of A Grown-Up Girlfriend- to encourage, give hope, and provide a Christ- like example to those around us
5. Growing up is a choice we have to make
6. Signs That You Are a Grown-Up Friend- (page 216)- Accept rather than judge, express your feelings and expect friends to do the same, take responsibility for your own feelings; however, never lay guilt trips on your friend for how you feel, show empathy and compassion and true understanding for your friend.

Since the series is over, I am beginning to wonder where to go from here. I know a while back I had talked about doing a review of Patrick Henry's new book, I Am Potential. But I would like to hear from you, what would you like to see done with this blog? Any feedback readers provide me with is greatly appreciated. I look forward to hearing from you all,

Sincerely,
Debbie

Dare to Change the World (and its perspectives!)

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Okay, so I came across this website on the weekend and thought it was quite interesting.. A wheelchair bound model is challenging what it really takes to "walk" the runway.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N7z_fnoilYI&feature=related

Changing it up!

Okay,

Since it is the week of my birthday (or it was), I have decided to change things up a little. I still have some catching up to do with my posts, but I figured if I followed my pattern of writing on Tuesday, I should probably finish the week out by writing on Thursday. That being said, I will only write twice this week.

Today's post is going to be a short one. There has been a lot of buzz going around about a recent commercial put out by the Dove company. This newest one portrays the daily struggles of a wheelchair bound person getting ready to go out. On the other hand, a able-bodied person struggles with self-esteem issues. The tagline, Self-Esteem: a man-made disability. A lot of people are outraged by this commercial. Personally, I can see both sides of the debate. Some might say that they are making light of disabilities, putting them alongside able-bodied people with their own personal issues. Maybe it's just me, but I feel as if they are trying to bridge the gap between us as a society-saying that we're not that much different than everybody else. One could also remember that the Dove company provides self-esteem workshops for young girls, so maybe that's what they are trying to promote..

That's my take !

Judge for yourself..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N9BA8mCGkNA

By the Way, if anyone can tell me how to embed videos directly onto the site. I would be very grateful.

Pay It Forward

Hey Guys~

So it's official, I'm 29 today.. (Okay, so I realize I'm writing this post a couple days late!) I know I usually post on Monday, but I thought I would change things up a little. 29 years old, I can hardly believe it myself. Growing older, time seems to fly by; that's why I strive to maintain a sense of innocence in my life, remembering that life is a gift never taking it granted. However, it's so easy to get in a mode of living day to day forgetting what's truly important. But every once in a while God uses unexpected circumstances to remind us how connected we really are or should be as a society. Take for example the unexpected gift I received the night of my birthday. My family and I were celebrating at a nearby Japanese steakhouse and a stranger wished me a happy birthday. Come to find out later, that he had the for our family's meal. Isn't that amazing?
This unforgettable gift kind of reminds me of a movie that debuted in 2000 entitled Pay It Forward. This movie starring Kevin Spacey, Haley Joel Osment and Helen Hunt really says something about how we are connected with each other as a people as well as individuals. Too often, the focus is on ourselves when it should be on other people. We forget that we are all in this together. Granted, I will never know the reason why a complete stranger paid for our food, but even with that small gesture he caused me to stop, remember my purpose and why I am here, and move on with a renewed sense of self.

We all have a chance to make an impact; but what will we do with it?

I am going to pay it forward someday

Trust me on that..

Grown-up Girlfriends Chapter 11

Okay,

So I am about done with reading my book on maintaining friendships with a Christian perspective. Through it all, I have learned a lot about myself and to cherish every friendship for what it is-a gift of God. I hope my notes on the book have helped you as much as they have helped me..

Chapter 11 Notes-A Grown-Up Friend Reaches Out in Crisis
1. A crisis builds endurance-James 1:2-4
2. a introvert and extrovert can act differently to a crisis
3. introverts may need time to reflect on their situation before reaching out (page 178)
4. You need to know when to ask for help, sometimes this is difficult for people (page 179)
5. Know Your Own Responses to a Crisis (page 180)
6. Ask Yourself is your relationship a safe place to fall for your friend?
7. Never Give up Hope on your situation or your friends

Encouragement: Five Minutes Of Faith

Welcome back~

So it may look like I am posting my articles on time, but I do realize I am about a week behind schedule. I apologize to everyone who clicks on my website every day hoping to see some new words of wisdom. Things just keep coming for me, taking my attention. That being said, I hope to catch up with all my posts for the week and start fresh.

Sadly, there is nothing disability wise currently in the news; however, I did come across this website in the process of searching. This website is one of a series of blogs by various contributors. This specific blog focuses on areas of faith. Most entries take five minutes to read and are quite interesting. Feel free to take a look.
http://www.5minutesforfaith.com/

The Importance Of Keeping Your Disabled Child Involved in Their Own Education!

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Okay, so I know I'm a week behind schedule. In truth, I didn't think I had anything of value to say last week. I let my negative thoughts eliminate any possibility for changing people's perspective this week. Today, I was reminded how God's love is not conditional but unconditional. My sanctification is not based on my own actions, but the actions of Jesus Christ took on my behalf-dying on the cross and rising on the third day. Therefore, I am saved no matter what.

Sunday's sermon was much needed...

Over the last few weeks, I have attempted to illustrate the importance of remaining a disability advocate for yourself or your child. The following blog post from from further illustrates my point implementing the use of a person centered plan. The plan simply outlines your child's goals for the future. They are not limited to the educational goals but include social and long-term ones as well. Feel free to learn more about this process by visiting the following blog:

http://4thosewhofollow.blogspot.com/2009/04/person-centered-planning-tool-for.html

On a personal note, I have gone through this process myself. Not only did this provide a clearer picture for those involved in my daily living, but this process allowed me to figure out what I wanted during my educational career as well as in my future.